Secrets of Becoming the Dominant Male

As a man, you need to be decisive and make decisions.

Become comfortable with being in charge and in command.

If you want to go to the beach that Sunday, tell your woman,
"Let's go to the beach... and have a barbecue! Quick, get
ready."

If she asks you which pair of shoes looks better for the
evening, tell her. Have an opinion. Don't just say to her, "I
don't know... whatever you like better."

Women often want to just relax knowing that you have taken
care of everything. Being decisive means taking the lead and
surprising your woman.

On the other hand, if you're unable to be decisive and take
charge, your woman will feel your weakness and take charge
for you. She will start telling YOU what to do, nag you, and try
to micromanage you.

Taking charge and being decisive however doesn't mean
taking domineering control over your woman however. Taking
charge doesn't mean micromanaging her activities, telling her
what to wear all the time, or telling her who she's allowed to
see. It doesn't mean playing dictator.

You want to be dominant, but not domineering. You want to
be strong, and yet sweet.

Nor do you need to create a woman who is subservient. In
fact, your woman should not hesitate to offer you her advice
based on her experience and feelings.

So do I mean exactly by "take control"?

...taking control does NOT mean being macho.

...taking control does NOT mean belting or popping a woman
one when she gets out of line.

...taking control does NOT mean emotionally abusing a
woman.

...taking control does NOT mean putting a woman down.

...taking control does NOT mean losing your temper,
screaming, or yelling.

And never to become brutal or violent physically or verbally
with your woman. Creating a Fascist atmosphere with
domineering behavior is interpreted by your woman as a form
of weakness, and she'll come to despise you for it. She will
lose all respect for you, and rightfully so, because it's cruel
behavior.

A domineering man is unsure of himself- a domineering man is
insecure- a domineering man is not the romantic hero women
dream of but a thug who resorts to violence for control
because he lacks control from the power of his natural
charisma.

So while you rightfully want to avoid the, "I'm a desperate
super-nice guy, I-have-to-kiss-her-ass-so-that-hopefully-she-
likes-me" behavior, this doesn't mean you want to make the
mistake of being domineering either.

Always demonstrate that you are gentle, sensitive, loving, and
caring. Many men make the mistake of believing that being
nice means being a pushover. It's not. You still want to nice
and loving to your woman, just not in a placating way, but from
the position of taking command and being a man of action.

So you have to take control over the situation without losing
control over yourself. You want to be able to be in control of
any situation without resorting to any sort of domineering
behavior. Being in control and being decisive simply means
that you are a man of action, that you have direction, and are
comfortable taking control when the moment arises.

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